What is “Abuse?”
Abuse is any pattern of behavior that is used by one partner to gain power and control over another one. Abuse can manifest itself in different types. It does not only have to be physical. It can be emotional, economic, using children, using male status, sexual (having sex without consent), using isolation techniques, intimidating and threatening you and blaming you for the abuse. If you are in an abusive relationship, the best thing is to safety plan so you (and the kids…if you have any) can be safe at most times. Safety plans are ideas drawn up based on individual needs of the person being abused.
If you are not sure whether your relationship is abusive, we can help decipher. Abuse can be very difficult to understand, tackle and live with. Abusers can be charmers and often display completely different behavior in the presence of someone else. This does not mean they are not abusive but simply manipulative so others cannot catch wind of their actions.